Note the Difference!

October 7, 2015  |  Relationships  |  No Comments

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Pride

October 6, 2015  |  Relationships  |  No Comments

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Often it is the case that  pride has resulted in being the central cause of a broken relationship, and our ego’s are the walls that prevent reconciliation and therefore stop us from our own happiness.

Pride is that comfortable pillow that we can snuggle to when we feel that we have been hurt by someone but it can also prevent you from reconnecting from people after a conflict.When we get hurt, we tend to use pride as a way to hurt the other party back in a passive way , typical is the knee jerk reaction of cutting off contact or making conversation with the other party as cold as possible while they are trying to reconcile.  Realize that both parties have some portion of blame in the cause and effect of a conflict. It is the easiest thing to raise your hands and say that none of it is your fault, and it is very difficult to overcome pride and be the first person to step forward to prevent the relationship to deteriorate further.

Having said that, keep in mind that reconciliation has to be a joint effort wherein both parties must resolve to understand each other better.  Extend the olive branch but make sure that you don’t reach a point of time wherein you want to use it as a whip 🙂

Story of my life

October 5, 2015  |  Odds and Ends  |  No Comments

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Relationships

October 4, 2015  |  Relationships  |  No Comments

Relationships

Yes I know it’s always easy to blame the other party, but I feel that sometimes we need to think introspectively, stop and have an inner monologue to decipher what really is the crux of any problem in the relationship.  Benign things – a misheard word, an off the cuff remark, an honest opinion not asked for can at times be the bud from where the annoyance starts and ends up with a full blown rage that can derail any relationship.

It is very difficult to take blame and easier to find fault in others, but sometimes,just sometimes – asking yourself the question – what is this really about? , can lead to opening doors that you never knew existed.

Ramadan Kareem

June 18, 2015  |  30 days  |  No Comments

Ramad

May the holy month of Ramadan usher upon you peace, love and prosperity.

It’s time to feed your soul not your stomach.

Wise or Wicked thoughts

June 17, 2015  |  My Thought Bank, Rants and Raves  |  No Comments

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All of us cannot move onto something brighter and better, if we don’t leave the stuff that is blocking us from moving forward. Clear your head or your heart, let go of the old thing, only take what you learned from it. You cannot take everything with you the good or the bad; we can only learn and try to follow the lesson.

Doors will close, people will walk away… So what!! You are still there and you will always be – with yourself!! Be adult enough to know no one stays forever, no one.. Keep moving forward with yourself, be a better person to all except ignoring the people who ignore you or disrespect you or dislike you or even better the ones who have no time for you.. (I am not going to ask you to love them) 🙁

We all have permanent people in our life (mostly family) and of course the loved ones, friends and some well-wishers who haven’t changed over the years. The rest are just tagalongs, pileons, egocentric, selfish, pretenders, losers, cribbers, users, manipulators, exploiters and self-seekers!!!

A very close friend always told me, “Ask God, to remove people from your life who no longer serve you, lift you or contribute to your well-being.” And if they are meant to stay God will keep them. If not, I guess they weren’t meant to be. Closure helps or else the bull shit will follow you.

Appreciate and enjoy every experience. Never run or jump after something. Of course all this comes with maturity or perhaps after you turn 40!! 🙂 You cannot make anything work just because you want it to work for you, be it a machine or a human – if its broken it’s broken!

Be humble and rest will follow (along with the right people in your life – the permanent ones (who love you and are supposed to be part of your life no matter how big or small role they play).

So True!

June 15, 2015  |  My Thought Bank  |  No Comments

Good Morning,

Week 25 of 2015 – Monday Musings!
get used to it

Keeping up Appearances

June 14, 2015  |  My Thought Bank  |  1 Comment

We both know that
you like me
and I like you
and it is all about
who admits it
first;

but

let’s go out
and pretend not
to like each other
over lunch.

Maybe we can pretend
not to like each other
for dinner, later,
or breakfast the next morning.

Maybe we can pretend
that we kiss because
we’re drunk,

Call because we’re bored.

We can pretend
not to care
for as long as you like,

but darling, no one
ever choked to death
swallowing their pride.

Honestly Speaking

June 13, 2015  |  My Thought Bank  |  No Comments

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Reflections 5/5

June 11, 2015  |  My Thought Bank  |  No Comments

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