Month: June 2011

Love

[pullquote sid=”pullquote-1321474981″ type=”3″]Our capacity to love is not limited; time is a constraint and so is energy, but love that makes your life better gives you more of what you need.[/pullquote]

Amy Winehouse Just Friends

In death, Amy Winehouse joins 27 Club

One of the greatest mysteries of modern rock’n’roll history seems to have manifested itself again in the death of 27-year-old soul singer Amy Winehouse. The multiple-Grammy winning artiste, who shot to fame for hits like “Rehab”, “Stronger Than Me” and “Love Is A Losing Game”, was most famous for her tryst with drugs and alcohol. Her death will heighten th enigma around one of the most unsettling phenomena in the history of music – Amy’s joined Brian Jones (the guitarist of Rolling Stones), Jimi Hendrix, Kurt Cobain, Janis Joplin and Jim Morrison, all among 38 famous musicians who died at the young age of 27.

The 27 Club, also known as Forever 27, has seen stars die of drug overdose, freak accidents, suicides, and even murder. Hendrix’s biographer Charles R Cross wrote, “The number of musicians who died at 27 is truly remarkable by any standard. Humans die regularly at all ages… there is a statistical spike for musicians who die at 27.” Amy, who was found dead in her apartment in north London on July 23, had a long and troubled relationship with drugs like cocaine and heroin, and alcohol.

What you want from others?

I came across this interesting read and i would like to share it with all of you out there,who are trying so hard to get what they actually want..

Asking people for what we want can sometimes be a difficult process involving awkward discussions and potential conflict. However, it doesn’t have to be that way.

The secret to getting what you want from other people is to develop a genuine sense of reciprocity by giving before you receive.

The term ‘reciprocity’ describes the expectation that people will respond to you in the same way that you respond to them. So if you give another person something of value, they will be much more inclined to give you something in return.

Next time you want something from someone, instead of simply asking or demanding what you want, try using the following Reciprocity Formula.

The Reciprocity Formula

Step 1: Analyse the situation from the other person’s point of view and try to identify what they currently want. If you
can’t figure out what they want, the best thing to do is to ask them.

Step 2: When you have identified the main thing they want, present your case by saying something like, “If I help you achieve…
[what they want], could we discuss… [what you want]. Most reasonable people will be open to this approach because they are receiving before they have to give.

Step 3: Follow through and help the other person achieve their objective. The more time and effort you put in during this step,
the more reciprocity you will develop.

Step 4: When you have achieved the objective you agreed upon, revisit your initial discussion and ask for what you originally
wanted.

Personally, sometimes we really can’t fulfill the other person’s “Desiderata” (desired things) but just knowing that there is someone out there who is willing to listen and can at least try to help and solve the issue makes a big difference in ANOTHER’s life.. you never know when you will be needing their reciprocation back.

Bitter Truths You can’t Avoid

“Everyone, at some point in their lives, wakes up in the middle of the night with the feeling that they are all alone in the world, and that nobody loves them now and that nobody will ever love them, and that they will never have a decent night’s sleep again and will spend their lives wandering blearily around a loveless landscape, hoping desperately that their circumstances will improve, but suspecting, in their heart of hearts, that they will remain unloved forever. The best thing to do in these circumstances is to wake somebody else up, so that they can feel this way, too.”

Positive Difference

[pullquote sid=”pullquote-1321474981″ type=”3″]Whether the day is gray or whether it is sunny, you can make a difference. If others support you or if they conspire to stand in your way, you can make a difference. If you have plenty of Resources available to you or if you have very few, you can make a difference. If Momentum is on your side or if it is not, you can make a difference. You can wait and hope for things to go your way. Or you can get busy and make it Happen. You can complain that life has been terribly unfair. Or you can move Ahead anyway and Achieve what you intend, no matter what the Obstacles may be. You can plead with others to give you a break. Or you can go ahead and forge your own path to Success. Wherever you may be, whatever may have happened, you can make a Positive Difference. Live with Commitment, decide to move forward no matter what, and you will.[/pullquote]