An Ordinary Indian Woman

I remember reading this about this young lady back in 2010, and for no apparent reason, I thought of this lady and wanted to know the outcome of her sacrifice.. Was she still alive? Did she get justice? Did she achieve her goal? Well I guess not!!

To be honest, back then I didn’t think much about spreading the word, nor did I blog.. but now I feel differently…

Please read and share, it is about an Indian woman who has spent the last 12 years of her life fasting (hunger strike) against the Armed Forces Special Powers Act and has vowed not to call off her protest.. However it doesn’t seem that she’s being noticed at all…

No eating, no drinking, no combing her hair, no looking in the  mirror.. Hats off to her determination and I sincerely hope the government wakes up and doesn’t turn they blind eyes on her Fight for Humanity!!

Link : http://www.odditycentral.com/news/indian-woman-has-been-on-a-hunger-strike-for-the-last-12-years.ht

Iron Lady of India : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irom_Chanu_Sharmila

 

How to argue fairly

“The most important thing for a good relationship is to learn how to argue peaceably”

Disagreements are a part of human nature and though they can be tiring at times, if they are handled properly they can be settled with no long term damage to a relationship. Almost always, it is not topic of the argument but lack of any ground rules that make things spiral out of control.

First and foremost is the way you approach an argument, an argument occurs when two people have differing opinions on a topic, each believing that they are right. Unfortunately people approach the argument looking for control or for staking their claim to be right rather than looking for a resolution where all parties are heard and opinions debated. Remember this is a relationship not a full body contact sport like wrestling where there has to be a clear winner.

Some specific points to follow are:

Privacy matters – No arguing in public, the argument is between the two of you and that is where it remains.

The past is the past – We all have made mistakes, an argument is not the right time to bring them up. Keep the argument relevant – old grudges should be left out

Don’t make it personal – Stay focused on the topic, you have an issue and sort it out – Don’t start on personal traits, if it is relevant to the topic, then approach it in a different manner that shows how you are affected by it rather than exclaim the personality trait over and over.

Is anybody listening ?– Make an effort and listen to what your partner is trying to say – sure you might think that it has all been said before and you know what it’s all about but you really might not have a clue. Besides it lets the other person vent, and perhaps that it what is really required.

Graceful exits – The ending of an argument is critical to a relationship, notice if your partner is trying to end the argument and accept it – It could be in the form of a joke in the middle of an argument or an action such as walking back into an argument they just ran out on.

Importance scale– People disagree all the time, is everything you disagree about that important to you  that you need to get mad all the time or is it something that you can let slide and leave it for the important stuff.

Watch the clock – It is an argument not a war – there has to be a time limit – If you feel that you are going around in circles, let it go and cool down. Come back to it another time.

Communication is the key in any relationship and it is the lack of it that causes friction.

People tend not to speak when something small upsets them under the guise of not wanting to create issues but these small things tend to build up resentment in one and usually an extremely small incident occurs that causes your partner to face the full wrath of your fury.  At this point the other person is wondering what was that important that caused all this to happen and blames you back for getting mad all the time . So next time don’t let things build up and explode – Talk people ! Talk!

And most importantly prioritise, and do not sweep it under the rug!

Happy 1st of May

Good  Morning Everyone ,

80% of the time we think about the past and almost 15% of the time we worry about the future. This as a result drains our energy and we are only left with 5% of the present which neither of us appreciate it nor we can enjoy it rather we just seem to forget about it.

So Pick the day. Enjoy it – to the hilt. The day as it comes. People as they come… The past, I think, has helped me appreciate the present – and I don’t want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.

Easier said then done – but worth a try!!

Have a Dusty Sunny Day!!

Good Morning!

I don’t know who’s been slower my computer or me .. 🙂 I thought I could use some time off to restore, refresh, recharge but it’s never enough and no matter how long you take a break from one thing, it leaves you back logged on a lot of other important issues/ stuff that you should actually be focusing on – I guess it’s time to catch up..  In short, keep moving on, don’t stop, let go, it’s no one else’s loss!

Whatever it is you or me are going through – all of it, “this moment will be just another story someday”.

So don’t let the trivial things of today weigh down your tomorrow just like it did yesterday…

Very often we get so DAMN involved in OUR own destination that we overlook to value the journey especially the kindness of the people we meet on the way. To understand and to appreciate is always overwhelming. Don’t ignore or postpone anyone or anything that needs your attention unless it’s going to kill you !!!!!

Thank You

Since it is the 1st of November and I have this unknown fascination for round numbers, esp. if I want to start something or do something, it has to be on 1st, 5th, 10th and so on… I guess i can keep a better record of things this way!!

I know I have mentioned Gratitude before and its officially been six months since I began this blog and I feel today is a good day to thank each one of you who have stopped by here, just had a look, or left their encouraging words, or even met me personally and took the time to appreciate it.

Of all the people, I would like to thank a very dear friend of mine, who actually got me started on this and believed in me that if I want I can be serious and stick to something for a long time.. So thank you for being there and helping me out..

I would like to thank the friends I have who are genuinely happy for me as they would be for themselves. (Only they would know in their heart of hearts)

Thank you for my dear family and friends (also includes some of my present colleagues and some in the past) who overlook my faults and tolerate my moronic jokes.

Thank you for all the wishes which came in different forms of calls, sms’s, fb’s bb’s, emails, e-cards, flowers, chocolates, gifts, hugs, visitors, (4) cakes for my birthday and even the warm
wishes on Diwali from everyone.

For some long distance friends, thank you for still being my friend and not allowing time to affect that.

Thank you friends for creating beautiful memories with me in the past / present and hopefully in the future (if not, I have the past – lol!)

I also thank you for your kindness for bearing in with me on this long post. And how much it means to me to write this.

So I would like all of you to be sincere to yourself first and then with your friends. Once in a while stop and ask them how they are doing or just w ait and watch if they have anything they want to share with you – it could be something as simple as they jokes, they smiles, they embarrassments or could be something painful, but please tell them they have a friend and that friend is YOU.

Take a moment, to thank your family or friends, pen a few lines here to them or email them or even sms them. They is nothing wrong in expressing your feelings, you will be grateful you did and they will be so glad to receive it.

In case, they are confused with your ultra-nice behavior – just send them my link 😉

You never know you might make someone else’s day and they will get inspired to do the same!! It’s just two Words : THANK YOU! It can help you and paint the prettiest smile on your face too!