Happy 1st of May

Good  Morning Everyone ,

80% of the time we think about the past and almost 15% of the time we worry about the future. This as a result drains our energy and we are only left with 5% of the present which neither of us appreciate it nor we can enjoy it rather we just seem to forget about it.

So Pick the day. Enjoy it – to the hilt. The day as it comes. People as they come… The past, I think, has helped me appreciate the present – and I don’t want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.

Easier said then done – but worth a try!!

Have a Dusty Sunny Day!!

Me Time Free Time

A lot of people want to have a “It’s my life and I am free” attitude. They want to change and yet they want to be themselves which means they are not really changing for the better at all, but rather as per they convenience.

“ME TIME” or “FREE TIME” these words can be very tricky in our so called free-fallen world.

We all need space and time for ourselves and that is what most of the magazines or various therapists will suggest in this modern world, they would normally recommend to give yourselves at least 10 minutes of Me Time/ Free Time on a daily basis. But I am sure we all will never be satisfied with just 10 minutes (because that is just too less) but even an hour or even a day, would it make a difference if we have it our way? Personally I think it won’t but then that’s me talking on behalf of the whole world .

What the majority of us think about as freedom is truly exploitation of freedom. There are two major issues with this attitude. First is the word “Me”. Now “Me means I” Like I said earlier the so called modern population does not have an indication of who they are but they are more influenced by the surroundings they live in and the situation they are faced with then they act according to what suits them best. What car we drive, how we live, what we wear, who we hang out with, who we want to hang out with. All of this confuses the poor “ME” and hence we become just another fallen human being which I am not saying is not normal. Just thinking out loud!!

The other tacky word is “FREE”. Again (I mention the word) in “modern” times the idea of freedom to do anything that pleases you that very moment which does not give you the license to steal or kill someone. Freedom has limitations.
It also does not mean you can act like a selfish B_ _ _ _ _ or an egotistic B __ _ _ _ _! Now that is purely my point of view. There is a huge difference in doing what fancies you at all cost or abandoning someone to pursue your so called happiness or in other words ME TIME. (I am sorry just can’t stress enough) 🙂

To sum it “It’s ok to restore yourself when you are alone but don’t destroy someone else in the meantime.”

Stressing on the fact that, that we are all not like this intentionally (a BIG maybe) we tend to be very very selfish and to hell with the world attitude doesn’t benefit us for long time but by then it’s too late to.

Most of us are slaves of our qualms and self-centeredness. And if we really want to be free we must begin with outlining freedom by our conscious mind.

The Perfect Woman Myth

Ugh, so this morning, I was reading Arab Times online about how social life is driving women to plastic surgery (http://bit.ly/uf23X1) and it got me fuming.

If you have ever gazing in the mirror disliked what you see, if you have ever started a crazy diet or exhausted yourself from working intensely  at the gym in order to reduce those extra few kilos, if you have ever found yourself commenting at other women, saying things like, “Ugh, she shouldn’t be eating that,” or “Honey, you sure you want to wear that ?”, if you have ever claimed that you’ll commit suicide once you turn 40: (which I regularly hear from my over conscious friends) than this read is for you!

Seriously Ladies! This has gotta stop! The opinions of ourselves and other women about looks, clothes, age, weight and the pros and cons of Botox, liposuction etc.  are wasting away our time and surrendering our integral power to an anonymous society that dictates to us a concept of beauty that is followed by many of us blindly.

Flip through any magazine and you’ll gather a message loud and clear about what exactly comprises a perfect woman:   36-24-36 , between 5 ft. 2 in to 5 ft. 8 in, flawless skin, perfect brilliant white teeth and a long mane of hair, between the ages of 21-31. It doesn’t matter if you speak four languages or could talk for hours about the art of binomial nomenclature. No one is paying any attention if you have more books than pairs of boots or that you came first in school’s debating championship.  Or at least, that’s what they would like you to believe.

All this is nothing new, and it will keep happening of course. I believe the media has played an important role in limiting the view of the perfect woman and imposing their own version of it for eons. However Women – we are not doing anything about it to help ourselves. We try to look dazed or disregard it completely, but we typically surrender to it, in one way or another. We assess ourselves to this version of the “perfect woman” and slowly but surely begin to view others to the same unit of measurement. We’ve all given a “missy” a stare over a skirt that’s too short or too tight, or with make-up too thick, or that extra chocolate coated filled donut being eaten by someone who is not a size zero. Even if you don’t do it, someone else still does and that is sorrowful.

We are part of a social dogma that we as women self-perpetuate and give credence to the myth of the perfect women – wrapped in a box – always glittery and graceful. And that very woman who you are judging for wearing a bright red lipstick or a dress that’s two sizes too small for her is doing so , so that she too can be part of the myth.

Ladies, this is a vicious circle and we all have to take a deep breath and realize that we are all here in different shapes and sizes, and that’s how we were meant to be! Look after yourself but do not demean your existence for the myth! Appreciate your curves if you have them and if you don’t, appreciate the fact that you can shop from anywhere. And to all my friends you have turned 40 or will soon be – Be delighted that you have the life long experience of understanding the world around you and wisdom to share with ones younger than you. No one looks up to a 20 year old for an advice?? I can very proudly say that  the most motivating and thought-provoking ladies I have met are over 35, who have fascinating stories to share and more exciting ones to look forward to.

Admire, encourage, compliment and congratulate our dear femmes in whatever they do, and please learn to let go of the myth and enjoy who we really are.