“Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you, who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope, fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. Do not fall in love only with a body or with a face; or the idea of being in love”.
Inside her ribcage city, Lies an abandoned heart hotel
Haunted with the memories, Of a time it once knew well,
If you’re quiet and imagine, You can hear the closing doors,
The forgotten conversations, And the footsteps on the floors,
It was open many years ago, When she was still young and naïve
Believing if she gave enough. She d’eventually receive,
Each day she cleaned and cooked, To ensure comfort for her guests,
Bust as people kept arriving, It grew heavy in her chest,
Eventually to hear herself, She almost had to shout,
Over the people who once moved in, And then never moved out,
Although they had faded from her life, They memories roamed the halls,
For she was so afraid of heartbreak, That she clung onto them all,
But the hotels aren’t designed, For everyone who comes to stay,
And when you keep on cramming people in, Something’s going to give way,
And so the story goes, Her heart hotel slowly closed down,
She learnt to let things go, And moved into a nicer town,
That she’s doing so much better, And she owns a cottage now,
Where ones she loves the dearest, Are the only guests she will allow.
“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.”
“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
Let our scars fall in love.”
― Galway Kinnell
“February” no matter what always seems like the cozy month between the cold January and the Springish March. It’s like a second chance of making things happen, that we thought we would do in January but then we think March will be too late to let your resolution, ideas, promises, imaginations go wild.
And then before you know its Valentine’s Day. How to go about wishing you beloved one, what to plan, what to buy, how to surprise, where to take, the romance, the special someone in our life, chocolates and red roses and the list goes on.
And some of us are alone too, but don’t have to equate yourself to being lonely. We all are social animals and we all need to be recognized by someone, not necessarily the other half or the same age group too.. But we need to nurture the individual self. We can spend time with ourselves, get to know yourself better, treat yourself and not wait for others to make you feel special or how others perceive you.
We love our children, family, friends, and work – do what makes you happy and be with who you want to be. Feed your soul not for anyone else, but yourself, even if it is silly things, like going shopping, putting your feet up and watching TV.. Whatever puts a smile on your face, excites you and gives you clue to your life ahead.
Forget about the candies, candles, chocolates and roses and no matter what your relationship status says on fb – try to be different!!
- Bake for people at work or a bunch of friends
- Spend time with your parents / grandparents
- Interact more with kids
- Cook your favorite dish
- Have a movie night with your friends
- Buy a good book
- Remember God – Since it is connected to the memory of St Valentine, the man who loved his God and his people.
- Play your favorite list of songs
- Host a dinner for your loved ones, with some great food, music and games.
- Take someone for breakfast, lunch or a day out
- Show kindness to a stranger
- Write cards, letters, and emails appreciating people you admire.
- Give due credit where you should
With or Without Valentine. Be gentle. Be Calm and Be Happy. Have the goodness energy and radiate out to others too. Take out time and reflect on yourself.
We all know Feburary calls for love, life and relationships. It has to work both ways however I think if you are already in a relationship or building towards one, these pointers might be something you want to think about.