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Wise or Wicked thoughts

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All of us cannot move onto something brighter and better, if we don’t leave the stuff that is blocking us from moving forward. Clear your head or your heart, let go of the old thing, only take what you learned from it. You cannot take everything with you the good or the bad; we can only learn and try to follow the lesson.

Doors will close, people will walk away… So what!! You are still there and you will always be – with yourself!! Be adult enough to know no one stays forever, no one.. Keep moving forward with yourself, be a better person to all except ignoring the people who ignore you or disrespect you or dislike you or even better the ones who have no time for you.. (I am not going to ask you to love them) 🙁

We all have permanent people in our life (mostly family) and of course the loved ones, friends and some well-wishers who haven’t changed over the years. The rest are just tagalongs, pileons, egocentric, selfish, pretenders, losers, cribbers, users, manipulators, exploiters and self-seekers!!!

A very close friend always told me, “Ask God, to remove people from your life who no longer serve you, lift you or contribute to your well-being.” And if they are meant to stay God will keep them. If not, I guess they weren’t meant to be. Closure helps or else the bull shit will follow you.

Appreciate and enjoy every experience. Never run or jump after something. Of course all this comes with maturity or perhaps after you turn 40!! 🙂 You cannot make anything work just because you want it to work for you, be it a machine or a human – if its broken it’s broken!

Be humble and rest will follow (along with the right people in your life – the permanent ones (who love you and are supposed to be part of your life no matter how big or small role they play).

December 2014

December 2014This month – where everything ends and starts as well! Except for snow, you will find everything else in this country – which is home away from home for many of us. So Live, Laugh and Cherish every moment. Cox that is what life is made up of “Small moments” “Little things” “Few people” “Less Lies” “Tiny Truths” and “Big Hugs”!!

I am sure all of us faced many ups and downs this year just like any other year. We all might have experienced many huge and small doses of immense happiness, achievements,  triumphs, new arrivals (home, cars, weddings, promotions, transfers, babies etc.) followed by similar doses of sadness, betrayals, challenges, trials, encounters, breakups, departures (wealth, friends, loved ones, farewells etc.) The journey was definitely long but the good news is we all survived it.

Here’s to having a great December and making the most of what you love or want to love!

 

What does honesty get you?

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Let’s be honest about it..

  1. People will not talk to you anymore that include Co- workers, Friends or family could be anyone. Your whole network of people around you will alter.
  2. Then all your fb or blog followers think you are having a real bad day or a bad life, hence you are coming up such posts. People think you hate your life.
  3. Some people will think you are losing it. And will discuss you among themselves and I will have more friends of friends who know me but think I am crazy.
  4. You need to be honest, but people will start calling you names, like idiot, Ms. know it all, mad and so on.. Becox they think you should not talk, should not speak up, should not be aware. So people start putting your down..
  5. Some people will find you interesting cox they or the rest of the 98% didn’t say the truth, and now you are the odd one out so they what to know all what you know.
  6. Some people will actually like you for your honesty and will come back to for some real talk/ advice, they know you are not harming them but at least someone is listening to you and trying to direct you.
  7. We all have our failures and downfalls; we also have nice shiny bright days. And sometimes people who have dark times, want to see the light, the light that shines on you from where they see it and they want to be in your place, even if it is just for a moment, they want to enjoy that belief. So some people will trust you. And you might form new friendships, new relationships or new connections. Cox some people believe in you.
  8. When you are honest, you are free. You don’t have to remember anything you lied about. That way you will never be caught too.. LOL!! But we humans, we think if she/ he lied then perhaps I should too. Cox this way we are even. Are we really? Or we just get deeper into a vicious circle.

So would you have someone be honest to your face? Would you be honest no matter who it is?  Of course a lot of it depends on your relationship with that so called person. But in the end you make the choice of who and how you want to be? Whether or not someone likes you for your honesty should not be your problem.

Networking

While I debate whether to write this post, I decided that it was my blog and the best place to put it.

Our parents and grandparents – all had a life before Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn or even Google Plus and guess what they made real connections and some of their relationships are even thriving today!

And then Social networking happened, where it was easier, quicker and cheaper to reach people for small talk, name dropping and lots of scams..

Be it Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or any new “must be on it” social media site. So let’s talk about it. What happens when you have all of these accounts and update them religiously? Well we know so much about all our friends, followers, acquaintances, strangers, friend’s friends. We know when they woke up, what car they are driving, how they kids look like, what kinda of friends they hang out with, how often they travel, how cute, sexy and hot they are and how absurd, immature and mindless they can sound.

More so, we get a heads up or we simply follow what everyone is doing, wish birthdays, engagements, anniversaries, graduations, happy holidays and the list can go on.

More importantly – do we care, are we the only ones making a big deal about the picture you neighbor just posted or do you want to be the first one to know who was invited to the most prominent peoples house. You know the best part is you are not alone doing this, and nobody cares. As in nobody really cares about the details of other people. You can tweet all you want, hit the like buttons as many times a day and if you are really trying to grab attention, type a random awesome, amazing, Kool, wow, lol, god bless, comment!!

People who spend unlimited time on these sites are self-loving, self-important, selfish individuals who are craving for attention, acknowledgement, approval, confirmations from other people. Now like I said you are not alone in this and maybe there is nothing wrong with all that. However all these self-loving, self-important, selfish people are looking for approvals from other people, than this social sites will only work if “you like my post and guess what I will like your post too”. Call it a virtual contract between your friends, followers or family.

So why are we interested in who was stuck in traffic on the way to work, why do we post temperatures, why do we post selfies, why do we post where we are going to burn out our calories and why do we all post Facebook look backs immediately, why cannot we wait till the whole world has finished doing it. Why do we have to name our purses and bags and give them colors to make it sound so >>>>>>.

So is it that we are bored or the fear of we might miss out and feel left out of the social circles. Is it a waste of our time, does it stir more jealousy in some of our friends / relatives / acquaintances? Are we receiving good thoughts or negative vibes? Why do we limit our posts to certain groups only? Why don’t we want to leave it? Rather why don’t we think and spend sensible time on social networking sites? Is this more important while driving to have to look that new notification? Is it worth the danger to your life? Is it worth looking at the phone at the traffic light and check out the recent updates in the last four and half minutes or you rather talk to your child/ partner/ a live person in the car.. or even look at the scenery around you be it the flowers on the roadside, the new advertisement, the sun set, the clouds, the birds, the kites flying in the sky or simply watch the road and be safe.

Why pretend to be busy when we are killing time.. Do you really want to be in such a circle or around it and if you are still planning to stay, think about the dos and the don’ts. So if you really want to get social with me and not pretend you know me outside the box, well then baby its time you either step in the box yourself or just leave the box. If my English sounds Spanish to you then I guess it’s time to unfriend. And the same goes for your twitter feeds, your Instagram account – that’s why it lets you give permission who to add and who not to.

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Friends

“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.”

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Thank You 2013

Happy 2014

Somehow I feel I owe a thank you to all the wonderful people I have met this year, created new bonds whilst staying in the country or travelling. Got to know some good old friends better than before Annnnndddd.. Lost track of some old ones too…

It’s always towards the end of the year, I look back and see what I have achieved, things I have learnt, experiences that make me stronger, people that have made me mad.. people who adore me (like I said old friendships / new friendships), my adorable son – how time is flying and he seems to be getting bigger, smarter and cheekier with his remarks.., Places I visited, places I have yet to see.. Things I have yet to learn and stuff I would like to do.. (Skydiving being one of many on my Bucket List).. Let’s not even talk about losing weight (that I religiously start on the 1st of every month and I am done by the 2nd I guess). Anyways.. I digress…moving on..

All in all  so far, it’s been a year that has gone by too quickly… So a few things I am thankful for and that might prompt you to do the same too..

Firstly thank you God for what I am and who I am

For my Parents, without whom I would not be a part of this world

For my entire family and extended family for always being there for me, even though I can be a bit of pain sometimes.

For my friends, they are my companions in life

For my not so close friends – I am doing fine thank you !

For our good health – so far no complains– can’t ask for more

For a sane mind which is able to function, think , store memories and hopefully look for solutions

Of course – For the Apple of my eyes – MY one and Only – My son.. Gives me a reason never to give up !!

For sometimes crying – to express my emotions / to value people more / to know what is right and what is wrong

For failures – so I can keep trying harder for the things that matter most to me

For Sadness so I can appreciate Happiness and thank you for Happiness so I can grow stronger from my fears.

For a new day – new morning – every day – to breath – to see the bright sun (although we never stop complaining about the heat here however I am thankful for that too)

For the skies, the clouds, the stars and the Moon that give me a reason to get out there enjoy a cup of coffee, go for a walk, drive, enjoy the breeze (depending on which time of the year) not to miss the BBQ’s.

And let us be thankful (which I am sure we all will agree) for our mobiles phones , the laptops, ipads, kindles, tablets and all that we can do on the Internet, the social networking places like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram.. It’s just amazing the kind of things we take for granted..

The never ending list can go on from Technology to Entertainment to  books and Blogs to Fashion and Thank God for my source of living which gives me all these wonderful things that I can call mine: home, family, love laughter, heartbreaks, challenges…

Thank you everyone for touching my life in one way or the other, and I thank you for reading this post, and letting me touch your life in a way or two.

Here’s wishing each and every one of you a Very Happy New Year – May the next year bring you more happiness and prosperity.

Stop binging N Start blogging

I must admit it was quite hilarious when this morning a very dear friend of mine posted on my wall to stop my feasting at work, posting pics of food, inciting my fb friends rather – i should stop dawdling and start blogging.. I guess its human nature to take things for granted and I have started to do the same with my blog –  “Oh! It’s Ok I will blog tomorrow with something better and guess what? That tomorrow becomes 2 weeks before i actually do something about it … So thank you Zeeee.. for giving me the gentle reminder!!

On that note :

“Friends are hard to find. In a lifetime you get only a few. And when you find them, you always know them by sight and heart alone, you always grow a little bit taller in your soul, and you know you have been blessed just to know them”.

Attitude

“Life is 10% of What Happens to Me and 90% of How I React to It”

When things aren’t working the way you want them to, or you feel you’re surrounded by problems, it can be tempting to look outward and try to change the things that you feel are causing issues. Chances are the issues you’re facing aren’t so cut and dry. The solution to the problem might just be your attitude. That’s what pastor and educator Charles R. Swindoll believes:

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company…a church…a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past…we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes.

Source : LifeHacker

Life in a Moment

Times when you stop to think wonder what I am doing, where I am, and what I should be doing or where I should be – all those moments.. to love /to be loved /making the most of your moments together /having a good time… These feelings sometimes, you wish they would just go away however hard you try they stick to you like a dreadful worm even after you wish it wouldn’t…

Yes, sometimes we all feel that way..

But that’s what makes this life so precious, so beautiful and that’s why I call it “Life in a Moment”. We all have to lose something in order to gain something else, we choose to live in the moments that fill up our soul for just that moment and we can live forever just thinking or looking back at those moments (One of the reasons I take a lot of pictures..) This way I can store them and look back at them and recall those moments… of course it could be from anything silly, fun, family, friends and lots of crazy times…

A minor thing like when I was all set for the MDNA concert, my friends encouraged me here in Kuwait to go for the MDNA show and once I was there, I didn’t feel away from home for the same reason I had so many memorable moments with all my supportive friends and family there and a brilliant week after that too and then I have friends here who wondered when will I be back in the country (all thanks to FB and What’s app) and once I am back – I am happy to be here again..

All these moments without any doubt , show me that Life is as wonderful as you make it and : “You do not need for someone to give you permission to do what will make you live more fully and healthfully.”

Hope these days of summer, that are here, be filled be lots of sunshine, lots of love, lots of happiness, new adventures, new experiences, new bondings and lots of fun for your family.

Happy Holidays 🙂

Laugh Until You Cry

Life is shorter than it often seems. Sometimes we are only given a few minutes to be with the ones we love, and hundreds of hours to spend thinking of them. Cherish the moments you have with your friends and loved ones, because in one single second they can be taken away from you forever.