Being in a relationship does not equate to being in love!! Or does it ?
Happy Weekending Everyone!!
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the ending… compromise is a two way street.
Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr.Right. Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you are and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
Oprah on Men
We all know Feburary calls for love, life and relationships. It has to work both ways however I think if you are already in a relationship or building towards one, these pointers might be something you want to think about.
Fable of the Porcupine
It was the coldest winter ever.
Many animals died because of this cold, icy weather.
The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together.
This way, they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions even though they gave off heat to each other.
After a while, they decided to distance themselves from one another and they began to die, alone and frozen.
So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.
Wisely, they decided to go back to being together.
This way they learned to live with the little wounds that were caused by the close relationship with their companion, but the most important part of it, was the heat that came from the others which enabled them to survive.
The best relationship is not the one that brings together ‘perfect’ people, but the best is when each individual learns to ‘live’ with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person’s good qualities.
The Moral of the story!
LEARN TO ACCEPT THE ‘PRICKS’ IN YOUR CLOSE ONES SO THAT THE WARMTH IN THEM ENABLES US TO STAY ALIVE !!
and try to be a good porcupine 😉
In less than a few hours, we will welcome 2012, I would like to wish everyone a very Happy New Year and continuously remind everyone to fill each and every day with optimism, enthusiasm and joyfulness.
It is not an easy task to make New Year resolutions and to stick by them, in fact it can be quite challenging. With our positive attitude, however we can overcome the fear of worrying about every little thing until it becomes big and boring and by then we are already disheartened. But the key is to learn from you past errors and press forward to achieving greater accomplishments.
We should all try to rise above the doubts and accept the transformation of a better self with composure and dignity. There is only one road to gathering the much needed courage to begin 2012 and that my friend is through your heart. The heart is the chaperon that guides you through the change by galvanizing your energies and engaging with all God’s creatures with as much love as possible.
We all need to positively give and receive gratitude and appreciation to everyone around us or at least try our best to acknowledge them. The more you stay within this territory, and share it through compassionate relationships, carefree laughter, and a deep thankfulness for the life’s ways, you will glow and grow…
So, release all fear and embrace yourself!
Wishing everyone a very Happy 2012