He is a man not Quasi-God

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If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the ending…  compromise is a two way street.
Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr.Right. Make him miss you sometimes…  when a man always know where you are and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Oprah on Men

Looking for the Right one

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love.”
― Galway Kinnell


Love Life Relationships

We all know Feburary calls for love, life and relationships. It has to work both ways however I think  if you are already in a relationship or building towards one, these pointers might be something you want to think about.

  • Trust one another
  • Show your true selves
  • Encourage each other
  • Make each other laugh till you cry
  • Think about us not myself only
  • We all have flaws – He does / she does
  • Pay attention to changes
  • Know what makes the other person tick
  • Don’t discuss the past
  • Look forward to the future together
  • being togetherEnjoy!!

Saturday Whirling Thoughts

If something is not working out for you, it is because of yourself:

Do not depend on others for your happiness, it will probably make you happy temporarily or because that so called factor is there or can be there for the time being. However if you take control, learn to use your time, your ideas and your experiences to create more of you and a better you. Do not let others think for you or decide for you. Respect your instincts and do what will make you happy. Studying, watching a movie, Driving, Eating, Travelling – anything you want to do in Your Zone! Do not think for a minute that you can depend or consider someone else to make you happy. It is not they job to do so. The more time you waste thinking how it is and how it could have been you are weighing yourself down. And if no one has time for you or doesn’t even consider being in your shoes then, go ahead and do what you have to do to accomplish it!

There is nothing like the perfect moment, unless it is created by us, for us or with us. It’s what you make out of things, places, memories, that make them perfect. You cannot wait for the right planet or star to be aligned in order for you to start something or end it. (Although we think that way – me too sometimes…) Everything is related with your will and your power to do it. No one or nothing is perfect on the contrary we all are full of imperfections – so use your imperfections to make things perfect. Perfect moments are just a myth. Create your own!!

We all hate someone or something, or maybe “hate” is a strong word, maybe I should put it as Dislike, well if you do then do not waste your brain and heart over it. Try and eliminate, disconnect! Not the other way around snoop around Facebook or sneak thru Friends of Friends to see who is where and with whom. Do you really care? Does it really make you sleep better? Why do people care more about people they dislike then about people they should be confirming they love and friendships and relations with. Just a thought!! Sometimes we hear so much ill about certain people that for no reason of ours we simply put our head and heart to it and harbor feelings of hate and it eventually gets the best of us.

Easier said than done – I agree!

We can never seem to bring back missed opportunities however, we can do a lot about the ones to come. “Let Go”! Some things and some people are better as “bygones” Let’s not pretend we are ok and we can have everything our way – cox that is just not true! Simply appreciate what you have and look at the ones who do not and feel blessed and wonderful.

None of this will really matter five years from now. Your anxious worries and fears were all unproven. So focus on right now. You are and can be a happy and prolific person.

We all have bad days – Trust me we do! Adjust your days and your moods yourself. Do not dwell on them and make them seem like never ending. Cox no one will or can fix it for you. Times may seem inescapable; however you will proceed to the next step and the next one and so on.

Material and Physical comforts cannot make you feel happy for a long time, unless your mind is at peace. Yes it can distract you for the moment, and when that moment has vanished, you will be back in your land of unhappiness. We humans usually find it challenging to decipher between the two, being happy in the present state just for the sake of being happy or being content for a longer period of your life.

The art of trying to make everything work peacefully around you is extremely demanding. However, if you start with one person closest to you or the one thing important to you perhaps it won’t be so taxing on you.

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Stephen Covey

 We all know him as a very famous motivational speaker and author of the best-selling ” The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,” which i guess we all have read at some point of time and as for me i think i still have a copy of it lying somewhere at home. God Bless his Soul.

He has also been named one of Time magazine’s 25 Most Influential Americans and he authored a number of books focused on leadership. To name a few of  his books “First Things First,“ ”Principle-Centered Leadership,“ and ”The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families”. He was the inspiration to millions of individuals and also an icon for the corporate world.

Below are 10 quotes from Stephen Covey that have the power to completely change the direction of one’s life.

1)      The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.

2)      The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.

3)      Live out of your imagination, not your history.

4)      Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.

5)      Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.

6)      I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.

7)      You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good.”

8)      I teach people how to treat me by what I will allow.

9)      Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her

10)   Live, love, laugh, leave a legacy.

Hope we can all learn something from his seminal work and influence both our business and personal situations in the field of self-improvement. (something that is much requried these days)

Wishing everyone a Blessed Day.