When we try to make sense of things new to us, we don’t always get it right.
Love(ing) day to all
September is here, and we are all geared for or rather hoping for a change in the weather, change in our routines after the summer holidays have ended and as my post of yesterday reads, Change in ourselves, our lives all for the better that is if we need too (maybe gyming). I do not want to sound like “You have to change” its just a general thing, so ppl please do not take it personally, plus its my blog and I am free to state what i feel like ;-).. lol Cheeky me!
So as I was saying I want to dedicate this month to Love, Food (that i love – btw planning to go veg for this month – i hope i can stick to it), things (that i love), chocolates (that i love), fragrances (that i adore), must be much more and of course all the random posts that i will be posting that i love…. and a few shots of my photography from my recent trip…..
Till Then.. Wishing everyone a Loving Day!!
Only once in your life
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.
When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.
There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all.
A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you.
You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you.
You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile.
Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” ― Bob Marley
The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
I finally got to watch the much-awaited British comedy/ drama movie “The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel”
It’s nice to see such wonderful passionate actors in a different light – the story revolves around a disparate group of English retirees, who abandon they homeland to look forward to a much deserved, much awaited and seemingly luxurious vacation in Jaipur, India. As usual in our good old India – nothing is as promised, becox the so called seeming lavish hotel is badly in need of repair.
However disappointed (phones not working, no doors, birds in the room, constant leaking of the taps) and however troubled (spicy meals) they seem, somehow time seems to heal and provide comfort to all the seven British pensioners.
The characters are quite colorful, especially Judi Dench as a widow in financial straits after her husband’s death and the loyal if unhappily married husband (sweet and funny) and his perpetually dissatisfied wife (uff!). Not to forget the enthusiastic attitude of the hotel’s manager Sunny (Dev Patel), the entrepreneur behind the whole mess. (who doesnt want to give up his dream rather his father’s dream also inspite of his mothers persuasive nature for him to move to Delhi.
The moral of the story is – Everyone knows to love. Everyone knows its ok to dream and Everyone knows when to let go of things that no longer belong to you. Lovely soundtracks and it has one of the best quotes I’ve heard in some time – “Everything will be all right in the end. So if it is not all right, then it is not yet the end”
A quick sneak peak : http://www.imdb.com/rg/s/4/title/tt1412386/#lb-vi929996313
Children Full of Life
Good Teachers connect theory with life. Please take the time to watch these videos for “Children Full of Life”. There are in five parts.
In this award winning documentary, Mr. Kanamori, a Japanese teacher – teaches his children how to be compassionate, determined, thankful, everything about life, most importantly “to be happy”. A very unique way to teach, approach and connect with these little souls. He encourages the the 4th graders to write and talk about their inner feelings and share it with the classroom, this helps the children to realise the importance of caring for one another. Allow your children to care for they friends – no matter if they are in the same school, class, activity, bus, building or even community.
Just like the family is a very fundamental part of the child, so are their early years in school and role the teachers play in their lives. We can shelter our children from disappointments, however we should also let them be a part of them, by sharing them, talking about them, acknowledging them. If you do not face the disappointments of life with them now, they future disappointments will be more devastating.
Some things happen only once in a lifetime, try to avail every opportunity and live the moment if the moment makes you happy and teach the same to your children… It is absolutely alright to be naughty but be nice and be safe. Kids – you can crack jokes and be funny however do not crack jokes or bully other children. Let the children share they opinion not that of they mother’s or father’s..
Part 1/5 – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=armP8TfS9Is
Part 2/5 – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oc7S8HAfDzk&feature=relmfu
Part 3/5 – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jd7YWx7idfE&feature=relmfu
Part 4/5 – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEW65OKRiAk&feature=relmfu
Part 5/5 – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5FGdXEBcdh4&feature=relmfu (very touching!!)
Remember, they are children they will complain, misbehave, argue, make stupid faces… as long as deep down their know the values of respect, bonding with they old and new mates, making efforts is all that counts.. Hope it was worth sharing the videos!!
R.I.P Robin Gibb
The irony of life, we always start paying attention to life and esp people when they are gone!! I am sure just like me there are millions of people out there in the world who are actually searching for his all old, all time favourite songs and will be amazed to even notice some songs we actually forgot or just realised that it was actually sung by the Bee Gees..
Well – i am sure Bee Gees will end up with more likes, searches and even more sales to follow … however unfortunately Robin Gibb will never find out … “talented beyond even his own understanding”.
I hope you all enjoy the below video from One Night Only, these are almost 30 of his top all time hits..
Watch on Youtube: watch?v=x1iTp6aWm_Q&feature=relatedTrack Listing 1. You Should Be Dancing 2. Alone 3. Massachusetts 4. To Love Somebody
5. I’ve Got A Message To You
7. Closer Than Close
8. Islands in the Stream
10. Our Love (Don’t Throw It All Away)
11. Night Fever/More Than A Woman
12. Still Waters
13. Lonely Days
14. Morning of My Life
15. New York Mining Disaster 1941
16. Too Much Heaven
17. I Can’t See Nobody
18. Run To Me
19. And The Sun Will Shine
20. Nights on Broadway
21. How Can You Mend A Broken Heart
26. I Started A Joke
28. Jive Talkin’
29. How Deep Is Your Love
30. Stayin’ Alive
31. You Should Be Dancing
They say that in the second before our death, each of us understands the real reason for our existence, and out of that moment, Heaven or Hell is born. Hell is when we look back during that fraction of a second and know that we wasted an opportunity to dignify the miracle of life. Paradise is being able to say at that moment: “I made some mistakes, but I wasn`t a coward. I lived my life and did what I had to do.” Paulo Coelho
How to argue fairly
“The most important thing for a good relationship is to learn how to argue peaceably”
Disagreements are a part of human nature and though they can be tiring at times, if they are handled properly they can be settled with no long term damage to a relationship. Almost always, it is not topic of the argument but lack of any ground rules that make things spiral out of control.
First and foremost is the way you approach an argument, an argument occurs when two people have differing opinions on a topic, each believing that they are right. Unfortunately people approach the argument looking for control or for staking their claim to be right rather than looking for a resolution where all parties are heard and opinions debated. Remember this is a relationship not a full body contact sport like wrestling where there has to be a clear winner.
Some specific points to follow are:
Privacy matters – No arguing in public, the argument is between the two of you and that is where it remains.
The past is the past – We all have made mistakes, an argument is not the right time to bring them up. Keep the argument relevant – old grudges should be left out
Don’t make it personal – Stay focused on the topic, you have an issue and sort it out – Don’t start on personal traits, if it is relevant to the topic, then approach it in a different manner that shows how you are affected by it rather than exclaim the personality trait over and over.
Is anybody listening ?– Make an effort and listen to what your partner is trying to say – sure you might think that it has all been said before and you know what it’s all about but you really might not have a clue. Besides it lets the other person vent, and perhaps that it what is really required.
Graceful exits – The ending of an argument is critical to a relationship, notice if your partner is trying to end the argument and accept it – It could be in the form of a joke in the middle of an argument or an action such as walking back into an argument they just ran out on.
Importance scale– People disagree all the time, is everything you disagree about that important to you that you need to get mad all the time or is it something that you can let slide and leave it for the important stuff.
Watch the clock – It is an argument not a war – there has to be a time limit – If you feel that you are going around in circles, let it go and cool down. Come back to it another time.
Communication is the key in any relationship and it is the lack of it that causes friction.
People tend not to speak when something small upsets them under the guise of not wanting to create issues but these small things tend to build up resentment in one and usually an extremely small incident occurs that causes your partner to face the full wrath of your fury. At this point the other person is wondering what was that important that caused all this to happen and blames you back for getting mad all the time . So next time don’t let things build up and explode – Talk people ! Talk!
And most importantly prioritise, and do not sweep it under the rug!
Day 2 of 7 Small Art
Day Two – Cork Top Bottle 6-3/4″ tall 4.01oz
Although this is not a lot of work but I call it as Small Art. Small art that can make a big difference and this way your creativity of the day is done and you can go to bed at a decent hour too!!
As the saying goes : “The more minimal the art, the more maximum the explanation”.
I have painted all the four sides with the same pattern, stuck four tiny stick on stones and wrapped a length of raffia strings around the neck of the bottle (from my recycle stock).